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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you are right to ask this particularly for your other kids.  Put yourself in their shoes - every year their Christmas is ruined because of their sibling.  Resentment is going to build up big time if you don't address this.  I think the most obvious choice is that your DD is excused to go to her room when she gets overwhelmed.  But everything continues in her absence and she can catch up when she rejoins the family.  Significantly paring down the holiday doesn't seem fair to your other kids.  Maybe break apart the gift giving time where you do your immediate family gifts Christmas Eve then do the grandparents/aunt/uncles Christmas Day.[/quote]

Thank you. I had a profoundly disabled brother and am very sensitive to my other kids' experience. I also think DD would feel terrible about her siblings not getting to enjoy Christmas "because of her." I like the idea to just remind her she can go to her room as needed, we will enjoy our Christmas morning and welcome her to participate as she would like. But she can't have her cake and eat it - she cant participate in the traditions she wants to do and also dampen it for the rest of us. She will have to choose one. I can also frame it as something she may even prefer to do on her own later in the day, or she may enjoy taking breaks if she can just get over the idea of doing something different.[/quote]

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