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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Kids will be ruined by a controlling parent who alienates the other parent much faster than by a slurpee.[/quote]

Exactly.
Also often rigid control and rules produces poor behavior [/quote]

Stop cherry picking. We know that loving but firm parenting is best. Not cold with strict rules and not loving with no rules. Firm boundaries are incredibly important.[/quote]

Yeah, but the parents need to have agreement if they are to be enforced by both parents.  That's the problem here.  [/quote]

The problem here is that OP is focused entirely on things that she doesn't want her husband to do, rather than on coming up with a strategy together with her husband to create and enforce certain reasonable rules.

I won't eat the artificial dyes myself and a make a huge effort to have a very healthy diet, but the 'no slurpies' rule comes across to me as being controlling rather than working together to come up with a successful set of family rules.

It's quite likely that the husband here isn't doing a good job sticking with the rules, but the necessary starting point here is to come to an agreement between husband and wife as to what exactly the rules will be, and what the consequences for breaking those rules are. Part of that discussion should be what kind of flexibility the kids should be allowed to enjoy. Is there a way to have a limited amount of Roblox (or another video game that they enjoy) or an occasional slurpy? [/quote]

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