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[quote=Anonymous]A couple years ago, I made a new friend (middle-school DDs are same age though not friends, but no drama either). Shared interests, husbands compatible, etc. A unicorn.

We'd text often, swap memes, things felt easy. We'd meet up for dinner, occasionally get together as a couple, and she opened up to me a lot about some prior life history (a prior divorce, etc). It felt like we were close. I had a bit of the typical "do I reach out?" nervousness but usually got over it. As recently as last month, went out to dinner as couples, and had a drink a couple weeks ago. This woman has a longtime best friend, also at our school, and their families are super tight. It's clear that this family is her go-to and they do a lot together. Just for context.

Over the past couple weeks, it's been a weird dynamic shift. I send texts and get one-word or kind of dismissive replies. Sent memes and rarely get one back (I know that sounds silly, but it's an energy shift). I asked what she was up to this weekend and if we could grab a yoga session soon (we both are in the same gym) and she sent me a text about how she was so excited to be going on a getaway with this other family...and didn't ask what we were up to, and didn't respond to the hangout. Basically that ended the back and forth.

I AM 43. I am [i]tired[/i]. I feel like I am playing games waiting for someone to reciprocate. More than anything, I wonder what the heck happened. So I just didn't respond to the text and decided to pull back...? I guess? I'm feeling sad about this, and then feeling silly because I'm an adult, but it still feels crappy, and I don't understand what happened and I guess I just wonder if anyone else out there in DCUM land has been in this situation and can offer insight on what is up. And it doesn't have to do with our kids, who rarely cross paths at their rather large middle school.[/quote]

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