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[quote=Anonymous]My mother, 74, is a depressed, reclusive, shut-in. She has heart condition she refuses to treat. She has her 2-3 “safe” places, but other than that, she sits and is nosy about neighbors, complains about family members, or watches the news.

Because of her heart condition, I call 2-3 times a week to check in. I visit about twice a month, for a long afternoon, where I help her with things. She’s to the point where she won’t even go out for lunch anymore.

I’ve read and taken the advice here, to call on a drive home or while “busy” with something like cleaning the bathroom or cooking dinner. Ok, done. But, like today, I’m dreading even making the call, to the point it’s stressing me out. I have to call today because I haven’t spoken to her since Friday, but I’m dreading it. I also have taken the advice to just agree, give her responses like, “that sounds hard”, etc, but I still take it with me when I end the call. I feel horrible that this is her life and that there is nothing I can do (she’s cognitively sound and knows exactly what she’s doing.) At the same time, I’m resentful of her stubbornness.

Help!
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