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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP do you really want to continue to run your life around this man's work schedule? I understand if you want to maximize your time with your kids, but his late nights and travel are not your responsibility anymore! I would really, really think hard before you tell him he can keep his current habits when he no longer has a wife to pick up his slack.

Whatever you are considering, imagine as a thought experiment that your kids are having to do this with a new stepmother that they dislike, and new step-babies. Because that's potentially where this is headed. Mr. Important Job Mans often swap in a new woman because they can't really work and parent simultaneously on their own.[/quote]

Thank you for this response. I think you are correct on both points above. I think for your first point, I need to think about the set schedule and holding boundaries (not flexing for him). At the same time, I feel like your point in #2 makes me lean toward sticking with the plan to take the lion's share of the parenting time. I do expect a stepmother at some point. I do not expect a stepfather. But I don't want to look back when my children are teens and regret decisions I made now because I didn't know any better.[/quote]

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