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[quote=Anonymous]I am going through a divorce with DH. He initiated it. We have kids including a tween DD and she does not want to be around DH. However, he insists that her feelings aren’t valid and he has been behaving weirdly during their visitation time. DD says that he does things like puts his arm around her and she says no and pulls away, and forces hugs on her, or opens doors that she has shut, and has even pulled covers off of her when she’s tried to hide in bed.

I have reported this information to my attorney and it sounds like DD has brought it up with her therapist. DH is on the autism spectrum and has always had trouble relating to our children as independent individuals and treats them as far younger than they are. He also has a weird sense of boundaries and struggles with picking up social cues.

But DD is our oldest and only girl and I’m wondering what level of boundaries a child is “allowed” to set with a parent? I think that a child’s body is their own and they should never have to be touched by someone if they don’t give that person permission. DD says DH has been getting mad and mean when she sets boundaries or rejects his hugs.

I’m deep in this divorce so I need input  from parents of tweens and teens in “normal” family situations with “normal” DHs: am I overreacting, is my tween overreacting, or is DH’s behavior a cause for concern? My gut is saying this feels really off but I am also feel very protective of my kids because of everything DH has out them through. [/quote]

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