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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As you're seeing you can't really enforce your rules about her dating an older boy.  I also don't think this age difference as you've described is that big of a deal.

Focus on what you can control.  She can't be at his house or have him over or drive with him in his car.  Those are things you should be able to control.  Other than that, let it go and know that it will pass.[/quote]
I’m learning! Those are definitely the hard and fast rules. I don’t so much care if they meet up, but she needs to know it can’t lead anywhere today.

The age difference isn’t extreme, I admit that, but he’s a little more advanced and mature than she or her friends are. This is her first “boyfriend” and I don’t want her getting hurt. [/quote]
Listen to that little voice and trust yourself. It is great that you notice and care about what she is up to. 2 years doesn't seem like much, but [b]he will definitely push for sexual interactions[/b]. She is too young for that. Keep talking with her and select your battles carefully. I would insist that all dates or whatever they call it include other teens. [/quote]

I have a 16 year old son and most of them are pretty clueless still.  I think for most boys there is a big leap from hanging at Starbucks after school to he's pressuring her for sex.  OP, I wouldn't give them alone time that you know about but the group activities and after school time?  Let it go. [/quote]
Thank you! Most of my friends began dabbling in sexual things around his age, so while my mind is stuck in the past, I’m also not dumb to the fact that boys at this age have urges and that girls feel cool having older boyfriends. BTDT. Thanks for your advice! [/quote]

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