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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, I think you need to have some more patience. It can take a long time to "break in" to established social groups and you already have made some connections as evidenced by the happy hour group and Pickleball group. And all of this despite having a new baby which makes it more difficult to socialize, you're doing great!

I would continue doing what you're doing and try inviting someone from the happy hour group or pickleball group out for a one on one activity to try to foster at least one closer friendship. You may find that you are never fully integrated into the groups you see hanging out separately and you have to be able to let that roll off your back.

For some perspective, we moved to a new state seven years ago (so about 18 months before COVID) and I have finally over the past two years feel like we are well established here and have strong social connections. It can just take a really long time to create these connections as an adult, especially when you and everyone you are meeting is maxed out raising young kids. You may end up clicking better with families you meet through the new baby who haven't even moved to town yet. Hang in there.[/quote]

OP here, I appreciate the encouragement! I think that it's just a combination of seeing the other Mom's having these cozy get togethers doing fun fall things, and having the realization that we don't really have anyone that we could ask to do something socially with on a regular basis. A few weekends ago, we went to a kid-friendly brewery that has a giant playground, and I remember thinking "I can't think of anyone that I could ask to come here with us that I'm confident would say yes." I think that, because I see all these other Mom's within these larger groups doing things together, it has me reevaluating my places in these groups, and making me feel like I'm barely a fringe member of them. [/quote]

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