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[quote=Anonymous]My third grader manages to work himself into an emotional frenzy over school work because he makes it so much harder than it has to be. He will write and erase a word multiple times because the spacing between letters is "wrong," he will re-check a very simple math problem four times, and if the teacher tells him to write a 5-sentence paragraph, he's convinced he should really do 10 sentences, complete with online research and notations. He ends up feeling completely overwhelmed, which only increases the stress and makes a simple 20-minute assignment take upwards of two hours. I've spoken to his teacher alone, and with him, and she's told him that he doesn't have to be this diligent. She's even told him that if he really feels stressed about something to just skip it and move on (learning the material is not the issue here). I am happy with her low-pressure approach for the most part, but I really feel like he needs to learn to not let perfect be the enemy of good. He had a very relaxing Christmas break, but now I find myself loathing the thought of him doing homework tomorrow. Any thoughts, tips for reducing the drama and conveying to him to just do the damn work and not over think it?

(He is not a perfectionist in other areas of his life. His room is a disaster area.)
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