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[quote=Anonymous]This is tough. I am an adult with LDs who has older siblings that did not have LDs. It was clear that they found school so much easier than I did and it did not help to have the same teachers they did who made comments that were inappropriate comparing the three of us.

My parents were great but it was still hard. Here is what I would tell your child. "I get that this is harder for you but the time you are spending understanding how you study will help you a lot when you go to college and you get a job."

Praise the effort that they are making and make it clear that you are celebrating their hard work. You can do the same for the sibling, praise the effort. Make sure that you mention the completed classwork and homework and whenever you see both kids studying. They are earning the grades that they get and that should be celebrated. It is ok to earn a B if you worked your hardest.

Emphasize that different people learn differently and that is ok. Do some research on successful people with the same LDs and talk about how those people succeeded, especially if they had a different approach to a problem because of their learning issues and found a solution that others didn't see.

Empathize that it is hard but compliment their work ethic and what they are doing.

As a side note, my older siblings were jealous of the time that my parents gave me to help with schoolwork and the like. They complained that if my parents had spent more time working with them they would have done better in school. Now, they ignored the fact that they chose not to complete homework and did not respond to what my parents tried to do to get them to do their homework. They didn't get the need for treating kids differently until they had kids that had different learning issues and emotional issues and had to live that difference. THeir complaints quieted down a lot when they saw how different their own kids were.

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