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[quote=Anonymous]It's hard to see someone you love feeling sad, but I think your instincts to stay out of it have been correct.  That said, I don't think you need to go out of your way to buy stepson presents or do other stuff for him.

What is your husband doing to try and build the relationship he wants with his son?  In can be hard for parents and adult kids to adjust to that new relationship, and it can take some nurturing, particularly if there are divorce/blended family issues involved.  Stepson may need your husband to reach out to him and make those phone calls.

I saw a situation like this between my cousins and their stepmom.  Cousins were raised in a really chaotic environment, but stepmom didn't really want to acknowledge how crazy their family and her new husband had been.  She always wanted them to do normal family stuff like call on birthdays and come over for Christmas dinner, which they really had no previous experience doing.  So for them, it felt like they were subjected to this crazy childhood, and then stepmom wanted them to deny that past and pretend they were normal, which they definitely were not.  While it's unlikely that this is the exact situation in your family, husband and stepson may have some complicated history that they need to work through.[/quote]

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