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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What's the age difference and what exactly are they doing?  How old is the one less favored?   If it's something a long the lines of they just click with the other one more over shared interests, that's one thing.  [b]If it's giving them gifts or taking them places and intentionally leaving the other one out,[/b] that's different.

Has your husband talked to their sibling about this?   [/quote]

It’s this and the kids are both teens. 2.5 years apart. Husband is planning to have a serious talk. [/quote]

For teens, I think it's completely fine to be frank with the kid.  You can tell them it's unfair.  That sibling is a jerk.  It's rude.  Etc.  I see no reason to sugar coat things.  Your teen wants to feel like you understand, not that they shouldn't feel how they are feeling.   They are also old enough where you can talk with them about why this may be happening.  I had this dynamic growing up and the reality was my brother and Uncle just had a ton in common.  They both loved sports and my Uncle was a season ticket holder for a couple teams.  I....tolerated sports.   I could enjoy it but I also got why my Uncle didn't want to take me.   I appreciated that my parents acknowledged the why and also acknowledged that it wasn't fair.   I think it also helped me deal with social situations in college and beyond where you got left out or similar.

And if they are older, can't you just arrange for the cousins to do things together?  Parents shouldn't really need to be involved at this age. [/quote]

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