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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Meh. For me this would be too much.

How many nights does your family (parents + kids) eat dinner and reconnect?

If my spouse insisted on doing weekly Friday dinners, I would use the night for a workout class or night out with friends. Pick a different night a week where it’s just your nuclear family and enforce it. Go to in-laws once a month or something. Invite them to kids soccer games and concerts. [/quote]

I already made the once-weekly concession and now I’m getting pressure to do EVEN MORE. Me not going causes drama. They feel slighted and let’s be real, they’re right.

I feel like, with them, no matter what I give in, they will reopen the negotiation for more. The boundary battle is constant. [/quote]

OMG! You need to emotionally disengage. I can feel the anxiety through the screen. You need to decide how much time you’re willing to give, then do it. Grey rock any complaints. Let it roll off your back. Say “okay” and smile. Remember, you teach people how to treat you. Right now you’re teaching them that whining gets them what they want. [/quote]

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