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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Divorced mom, 50/50 custody, 2 kids, 9 and 3. The setup now is a million times better than when I was married, but I still regret having kids (especially having a second).

Most days I feel like I’m just counting down the minutes until they go back to their dads’ and counting down the years until they leave for college. I always feel overwhelmed and like everyone understands this parenting thing except me. I resent that every day is a battle just to get them out the door, that I need to make snacks and drinks a million times a day, that they’re so damn expensive and I’ve watched all my money dwindle away.

I know it’s not their fault, I know I suck as a parent, I know they’re gonna end up with all kinds of problems because of this. But I can’t help that I really, truly regret all of this and just want my easy life back. [/quote]

Two options: 1) Give up custody, or 2) Love your kids.

Loving your kids doesn't mean having a feeling of love for them. Rather, it's just taking a step back and caring enough just to observe them as the individuals they are. Right now you are too much in your own head about what you feel you need to do because you are their parent. But if you step away from that mindset and recognize that they are two humans that are interesting in their own right, you might find that you actually want to spend more time around them than you think.

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