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[quote=Anonymous]Think of it in the long term. Obviously, you value your sister and your relationship with her.

She has gone through a dramatic transformation and has found that her priorities have likewise dramatically shifted. As others have said, being pregnant, giving birth, having a newborn and then a toddler is a lot! Everything you describe is completely normal for new parents, especially needing to shut her brain off with mindless scrolling once the toddler is asleep. It sounds like right now, she needs you to be there for her. Be there for adult companionship while she attends to her child. Be there as a safe person to let down her guard and just be exhausted. Be there to offer forgiveness when she cannot offer anything more right now.

This is where the long term thinking comes in:  this won’t last forever. Toddler parents have to be 100% hands on but it will change. Keep the connection as best as you can, and maybe in 6 months, offer getting together for lunch (not dinner - bedtimes are going to be tricky for a few more years).  If her child ever does drop off classes, offer to meet her for coffee during that time. Be flexible to match her routine and it will become easier and easier. And she will be so grateful for you! [/quote]

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