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[quote=Anonymous]Over the last few years, DH has become increasingly selfish and even says things that basically declare that his needs and interests come first. I did detect a little bit of a selfish streak when we were dating but almost 20 years later but I saw it as one fault in a good man who treated me with love. But yikes, that mild streak has bloomed into a shameless trait he doesn't even try to suppress. We have kids and it's become obvious that he's numero uno even in the way he deals with them and their needs. He needs to be asked all the time to take them to their activities (with very, very carefully worded instructions) or if I tell him, hey, could you take Larlo to his XYZ activity and hang out there, there will be other fathers there you know, he'll actually counter along the lines of, "I don't like XYZ activity, not my thing." Um, guess what, here's a PSA: This activity isn't about YOU, mister. No one asked nor cares if YOU like baseball or Boy Scouts or hanging out at your daughter's ballet studio. He's even tried to insist that the kids want to see certain movies that I know he actually wants to see, so he'll pretend they want to see the film.

Honestly, if he were into something like hunting and fishing at least he'd be bringing back something we could cook together and eat. Or if he were into some sort of lucrative hobby that generated extra income, ok, I could live with that as well. But none of these things help us or bring us together as a family in anyway. It's all for HIM. He's literally picked up a bunch of new solo, non-income generating hobbies over the past few years.

Anyone deal with a spouse like this? How did it work out in the long run?  Mid-life crisis, or someone just showing their true colors? [/quote]

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