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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ds is a freshman and he is doing well in school, has friends, activities. But his girlfriend (since junior year, she is great so that’s not an issue) is two hours away and he visits her every other weekend. He also has spent down nearly all his savings. He has a separate card for food beyond dining hall, things he needs for school. He is frugal with that but not at all with his own account. He has a job during most of high school and was also terrible about saving but bc he worked, he replenished the account. How concerned would you be about all of this? We told him spacing out visits would be good, focusing on job search, only bc he is spending so much. I just really want him to figure out good balance and not focus just on his girlfriend and also learn to budget better but it’s not sinking in. At the same time i don’t want to create a wedge by taking the car away or hammering the point endlessly.[/quote]

This is a tricky one, OP.

Sure, it's his money, but not really. Who is footing the bill for his schooling?

My concern would be less about the money and more about going to visit the GF at another school that often. Whether he realizes it or not, it's a crutch that keeps him from fully investing in his own school and life there. But that's one of those things that parents can mention - once - but is really his decision.[/quote]

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