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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can encourage gratitude without being emotional about it. I recommend addressing it after the fact or at the very least, calmly at the point of the incident.
For example, it's morning, everyone is rushing, child acts entitled. Deal with the situation calmly.
Later in the day when everyone is fed and not rushing, say, "I didn't like how you talked to me this morning. I don't mind giving you a ride when you miss the bus (for example) but next time, you could ask in a kinder way."

"I didn't like the way you talked to your dad this morning. It would be nice for you to acknowledge his efforts."

And then leave it at that for the moment.[/quote]
OP here—thanks for responding. What prompted this post was an event this weekend, and the overreaction that followed.

We spent the afternoon on Sunday shopping for some new fall clothes. Hours at the mall and in dressing rooms, buying clothes she didn’t exactly “need” but wanted. (Think jeans from American Eagle when one’s from Target would suffice.) We got Auntie Ann’s pretzels. A special candle from B&BW. It was a perfectly fun day. As we were leaving, she begged for this Japanese soda from the specialty store. The line was crazy long and I told her no, I wasn’t waiting, and since she didn’t have money of her own to wait, we left. Her attitude turned completely sour and she even ruined our family dinner by pouting and not eating. All because I wouldn’t stand in another line, spending more money on something she didn’t need, after spending the entire day shopping for her. DH and I blew up last night. I feel like I’m at my wits end.[/quote]

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