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[quote=Anonymous]I think this is a multi-part question, and maybe I’m not exactly sure what I’m even asking, I’m more so just seeking advice.

DD14 is a freshman, and she’s always been a really good kid. She IS a really good kid, but lately she’s turned into a bit of a Veruca Salt: very demanding, while also being incredibly ungrateful and rude. I realize this is a parent issue, and we fully intend to pull way back, but still aren’t sure how to encourage appreciation. Will this come naturally once she goes without any realizes we are no longer catering to her every whim?

I was once a 14yo girl, so I don’t take much of her occasional bad attitude seriously, especially right after school or in the morning. Her father didn’t have sisters, though, and he takes it VERY personally. They butt heads and I can neither convince him not to take it so personally, nor can I convince her to be kinder to her father. (I also struggle with whether or not it’s her job to cater to her dad’s feelings in that way, as they aren’t hers to manage? Does that make sense?)

I struggle with after-school/post-extracurricular rules as it pertains to phone time. She uses her phone to talk with friends, but she also uses it to scroll TikTok (she has child settings still) and Pinterest and Roblox, which is its own can of worms since she plays with friends. She rarely comes out for “family time” and the only way we can get her to do anything with us is if it’s something to her, like taking her shopping or to dinner, which I think is typical, but my husband struggles with (Again, girls. I used to bond with my mom at this age over Friday night shopping and Mrs. Field’s cookies.) Do we implement a mandatory family night once a week? Or is this out of line?

Any other advice you have for teen girls age? [/quote]

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