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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old?  To me it sounds like the problem is you needing to feel like you are on.[/quote]
15. I do feel like I need to keep tabs, especially when they wander off to find food. I realize they are 15, but this is where the parents will go to find them/pick them up, or at least where they understand they are located.

I also feel like I constantly have to have food and drinks. The other week things were hectic and I had nothing to offer, and I felt terrible, like a poor host. I do realize it’s a “me” issue. [/quote]

Yeah the part about you having to feed everyone and always have snacks and drinks on hand IS a "you issue".  How much have you talked to your DD about this?  It sounds like you also may have issues just laying out with your own kid(s) when something that started off as nice, well maybe it's still nice in some ways but it's grown too big and too often and too wearing on you so new parameters have to be set.  BYO snacks, maybe you provide drinks but not snacks or just make it BYO everything.  And everyone has to be able to get home on their own, no more rides.

You need to model for your kids what it looks like to be accommodating and welcoming while absolutely keeping boundaries that continue to make it manageable.  You suffering in silence or wearing yourself down about it doesn't serve anyone's best interests.[/quote]

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