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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I disagree with the advice that you should force your kid to take a shower every night. I think too many people have a shallow understanding of what "not accommodating" means and how anxiety works. What you need to do is help your child face their discomfort in manageable ways. If your son has been taking showers without incident for 6 months and then one night totally freaks out about it, that tells me that, for whatever reason, completing the full shower was not "manageable" that night.

If it were me, I would give my kid some insight into how other people manage fluctuating stressors and say something like "Wow, you're really tired tonight. Lets just rinse your hair with water and tomorrow we'll be sure to start shower a little earlier." (or rinse his body with water or do a washcloth bath or whatever seems reasonable for the evening). You also try to figure out what might be going on (tired? sick? sensory overload from something else?) and address it so by the next shower your kid is able to succeed again.

As adults we all have times where we feel like we just can't deal with X even though we usually deal with X just fine, and we give ourselves a break. Kids have the same experience. It is totally appropriate to take that into account. I mean, if you knew he was hurting from an ear infection you wouldn't force it, right? You would offer some alternatives and return to the full shower when he was better.[/quote]

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