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[quote=Anonymous]My widowed father in law visits around once or twice a year. Typically, he invites himself, just tells my husband that he plans on arriving “in the fall” or “late summer”. I get email notification of his plane tickets, nothing more. When he arrives, he dominates every single conversation, demands control of the television, announces what he’d like us to cook or the restaurants he wants to visit. He usually demands that my husband take him to the grocery store like Whole Foods where he also makes my husband pay. He doesn’t ask about us in any way or make any effort to spend time with the kids or my husband.  He makes us pay for everything and orders the most expensive meal or drink at every restaurant, sometimes two entrees at dinner.  I’ve had enough of this and no longer clean or prepare for his arrival. My husband is equally frustrated but doesn’t want to make waves.

He announced he’s coming for Thanksgiving this year. This has been an incredibly hard had for us, with multiple employment issues and finding out both our children have a chronic health condition. Father in law has not reached out once. I called him and told him that we needed his support and I was tired of him pretending he was fine. He half heartedly called my husband and asked him if he was okay. That ended quickly and he went back to monologuing about himself and his dating life (he’s widowed).

During this next trip I’m going to tell him that while I understand he didn’t want to involve himself in our lives during this time of struggle, he should understand we will be doing the same for him going forward. Next time he has an illness or struggle, he can handle it alone or make his other children help him (2 daughters who seem to avoid him).

Thoughts? I’m okay being the bad guy. [/quote]

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