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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is she in her own or a facility? I ask because I'm trying to get a sense of what supports you have if there is a fall. Ideally spend some time in the sunshine maybe listening to her favorite music and perhaps have her share favorite stories from the past. If you have kids, ask them what they want to know about family history and let her be the expert family historian. You could even film it if she is OK with that. Stick to happy things, not family secrets. It's a chance to preserve the history and have a recording of her smiling and reminiscing that you can treasure when she is no longer here.

[b] I'd be careful with doing something too out of the ordinary. You may be imposing your middle age ideas on someone at a different stage. Many elderly love their routines, and it keeps them calm and happy. My dad might have enjoyed a little adventure or change of scene until his mid 70s. Past that, if caused stress and exhaustion. Everyone is different.[/b]

The true gift is you being there and being in the moment relaxed and happy to see her. It's not about a place. I might see if she wants you to bring or make a favorite food, but only if you want to do this. You don't want to do things that make you stressed to please her. It's more important to just make it a joyful visit.

Re:inviting friends it s a fantastic idea or not ideal depending on where she is in aging. Even someone cognitively sharp can develop sensory overload with age. I have an aunt who would have loved a little friend gathering or a big one through her 80s. In her 90s it would have drained her and landed her in bed for the next week. My grandma would have loved it through her mid 60s. After that she would resent anyone who did that. Come up with choices and ask her. Let HER be in control. [/quote]

OP here. Thank you, PP, for this especially. It is a valuable reminder that I may indeed be looking at the week via a middle age lens especially as my mom does cling to her routines. What you wrote is helpful to keep in mind.
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And thanks to the PP just up one. I will definitely check out Create Academy ahead of my visit and see if my mom might be game.[/quote]

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