Reply to s/o Managing a teenager and grandparents, on top of everything else?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "s/o Managing a teenager and grandparents, on top of everything else?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]The other thread about the teenager and telling grandma to “knock it off” prompted this. It’s been on my mind lately, so maybe you can help.

I also have a high schooler who has a lot on her plate and also likes her own downtime. I similarly have a mother who can’t come to terms with the fact that her grandchild is closer to being an independent adult (the goal!) than a young child, and on top of that, has a hard time accepting that we (DD and myself) have never had the closest relationship with her to begin with.

DD has her own little life:

Weekdays are spent at school.

One weeknight and one weekend morning a week are spent at a very part-time job.

2-3 nights a week are spent at extracurriculars.

In between that comes friends and nuclear family. I hate to say it, but last comes extended family, and there are two sides (ILs) to divide a small amount of time with, and only seven days a week.

My mom is upset she doesn’t get one-on-one time with DD much anymore. We DO invite her to weekday dinners, etc, but for whatever reason, this doesn’t count to her. She wants more. She wants it to be sweet and cute and plentiful (and on her terms) like it was when DD was little. It sounds selfish, but if DD has a free evening, she’s likely spending it with us (her nuclear family) and not her grandma. I don’t blame her for this!

I’m not sure exactly what I’m asking, maybe just how do you manage a grandparent like this? In a year and a half she will be 18 and I can’t/won’t control her time at all. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics