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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stop supporting him. Change your locks. Don’t give him the opportunity to steal from you.

Sometimes cutting the cord and letting them truly fail will make a difference. And if not, you’ve
Protected your family. [/quote]
This is what my husband did. But clearly he needs therapy - should I be waiting for him to get help or should I be finding a therapist for him and bringing him back home..[/quote]

As a mom who had to put my child out (different reasons) here’s my thoughts. If you’ve done everything you can do it’s time to stop. And if your child is a danger to others living in your house, it’s time. I would consider stealing a danger if you can’t prevent it by locking things up. Only you can answer whether you’re there.

In the meantime now is the time to cut off all supports. No money. No car. Only food and shelter. Phone maybe - mine was a danger to himself so that was the last thing I took and not until it didn’t matter. But if he’s using it to gamble, then it shouldn’t be on your dime.

If you remove him, I’d be very clear as to what it will take for him to return. And never waiver. It will be the hardest thing you ever do. [/quote]

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