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[quote=Anonymous]She's getting married next month and asked me to be Maid of Honor. But other than that, she pretty much ignores me constantly. Honestly after thinking about it the last couple of weeks, as honored as I am to have been asked I am not really sure why she asked me at all?

My mom talked for months about how the three of us would go dress shopping and I was excited. I found out about it after the fact when she sent me a pic and was like "Mom and I picked my dress today FYI." My mom apparently told my sister I should be invited but my sister said because of her insecurities about her body she wanted dress shopping to be as low-key as possible.

I asked a couple of times if she wanted a bachelorette party. She said no. I then get a text last month saying "Hey, if you're free on this day, Kate's mom will be out of town so she said we can use her house for a bachelorette party." One of her bridesmaids kind of insinuated that if I truly knew my sister I would've planned one anyway? (I didn't want to do that because I didn't want to be the pushy older sister.)

This is a non-wedding related example, but a three years ago I was laid off and she didn't even call or text to check in on me until two days later and that is because my dad texted and asked if I'd heard from her. I replied no, and within five minutes of sending that text my sister called, which makes me think she only did it bc my dad told her to.

I understand most of my examples are wedding-related, but this didn't start with the wedding planning, it's been like this for years.

Anyway, this is all to say...I understand I sound like a piece of work. I would NEVER say any of this to my sister; the only person I've ever mentioned it to is my dad who said my sister calls him several times a day so his problem is the opposite of mine lol. I feel like ever since she went off to college I've been trying to bond with and be close to her like when we were teens/tweens and she's just not interested. She will visit friends here in DC and never mention she's here let alone try to meet up; I used to have a job that took me to her city every few months and I would always let her know in advance and see if she wanted to grab dinner. She has a lot of the same hobbies and interests as me so it's not like she's totally different from me and I just refuse to meet her where she is. And I get along very well with her fiancé so I don't think it's that he doesn't like me.

Just curious if any of you have ever experienced wanting to be close to a sibling who clearly didn't want to be close to you and how did you deal with it? Or maybe the sibling did want to be close to you and you just weren't approaching it correctly which I'm wondering if that's the case with me, as well?  Truly at a loss here. [/quote]

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