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[quote=Anonymous]The men in law firms who have three kids have wives who don't work.  It's that simple.  And if the wives do work, their jobs are less demanding.  I'll be honest, I work much longer hours than my spouse, and I couldn't do it if we both had my job (though I wouldn't do it if he had my job).  Also, no matter how great your DH is, there are things that moms end up doing.  Example:  child is sick-- it's 5:00 in the afternoon/evening, and DH is home.  I'm at work.  Phone call from DH:  Child is sick, what should I do?  I respond:  call dr and run child over before office closes.  DH:  Can you call and talk to Dr?

Or scheduling playdates, ballet, parties, etc.  I do all of it.  My DH is super helpful, but he just doesn't think to do so, and he isn't going to spend time emailing the moms of other kids to set up play dates.  So there are things that disproportionately fall on women in many (not all, but many) situations.

On the bright side, what many law firms provide is flexibility.  I may not be home for dinner, but I go on field trips, see school plays, attend recitals -- every single one to date minus one.  Since I'm billing an hour, I make up that time in the evenings and on the weekends.  It isn't ideal, but it works for me.  I've also established myself as being flexible and willing to work whenever.  To this end, I always read my blackberry.  Always, always, always.  If someone emails me on Saturday, I read it and respond, even if it is to acknowlege.  I have my work phone forwarded to my cell, and I answer it.  I keep pen and paper in my car.  I don't take time for lunch, and I buy everything (and I mean everything) online.  I don't complain.  I am constructive:  "I'd really like to work on x, y, z, and I'm a great fit because..."

I also have an amazing nanny.  I couldn't do it without her.

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