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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You sound like a terrible human being.

People are born with different capabilities. Not everyone can do everything, and some people can do more than others. People value different things in life and different talents in others.

I object strongly to the shaming language you use, like "take the L". You are actually saying that these people could actually do better, but they're lazy and don't want to. When actually, they cannot.

"I guess I'm not good enough" is a response to overwhelming criticism from you. The thing you apparently call "guidance". It sounds like you are bullying these people and when they run out of ways to explain to you that they cannot measure up to your expectations, the conclusion is clear: to you, they will never be good enough.

So instead of trying to control what you cannot change, accept other people's limitations, and if you have that rapport, try to work within them. Don't automatically thing they're lying to you or themselves. You can choose to walk away or continue treating them with the basic human decency they all deserve.

What if it's your child? A child with special needs CAN be taught to stretch to their potential, within the scope of their brain wiring. It requires very delicate parenting and lots of specialists to know how much to push, when and in which direction.

But don't pretend to care by writing a post on DCUM that is actually full of contempt for people who are not like you.

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Lying isn't a limitation, it's choice. If you're trying to get me to feel sympathy for all the poor, "special needs" liars out there, it's not gonna happen. Don't "bully" the poor liars by, what? Asking them, repeatedly, to just tell the truth about what they want? There's not even a wrong answer there; you want what you want. Just be honest about it instead of saying you want to change and then doing exactly dick all toward changing anything.

You're making this about something it's not. Stop projecting.[/quote]

I said they were NOT lying. Apparently you can't even read.[/quote]

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