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[quote=Anonymous]Slow down. You need to go very, very slow because you are emotionally and financially vulnerable right now and also probably exhausted by being a stable source of consistent parenting for your kids. I know because I’m in your shoes.

You don’t need to make a decision now and you shouldn’t. You do need a lot of information to even initiate a separation, so your job now is to quietly find it all and file copies away. You can look up what you need, but start with:

-mortgage information
-tax filings
-w2s or 1099s
-DHs paycheck info (this can be challenging depending on how transparent he is)
-healthcare plan
-home insurance policy
-life insurance policies
-all investment and savings info
-car notes or titles

Now you should also start documenting:
-very large unilateral purchases he makes 
-any inappropriate behavior towards you or the children

Once you have all that, you need to think about how alimony and child support calculations typically work in your state. That may or may not motivate you to keep things as-is or pursue legal options.[/quote]

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