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[quote=Anonymous]So almost two months ago I found upsetting info on my husband's chat with some family members. A week later I confronted him about it all (it was mostly downplayed and him being defensive).

In addition to what I found, I've been so starved of emotional connection and attention for many, many years. I also have many issues with his negativity and anger, issues with how he treats our kids, as well as the fact that he refuses to participate in basic parenting responsibilities.

He never wants to play with our kids, there's always an excuse for not engaging with them. The other evening he came downstairs from work (he WFH) and when my oldest asked if he could play a few times, my husband got increasingly frustrated and said, "I have to take care of three kids, I'm really busy and can't do that right now." I ch0ked him out with my eyes right there because it is such BS because he doesn't take care of them..

He has also lied about spending money and has a big spending problem, despite me pleading to not make so many big purchases that only benefit him and his hobbies.

He assured me he would change and that it was a wake up call for him and he thanked me for not leaving with the kids.

Well.. fast forward to now, and not really anything has changed. He was once again very insensitive and rude to our oldest earlier today and kiddo mentioned they "have the meanest daddy ever" through tears and I am just feeling done.

Kiddo has mentioned things like this many times before and it just breaks my heart. I had a very bad relationship with my mom growing up and it's mostly okay now but still has areas of not great. 30 years and I'm still broken from that and I fear with my oldest it is too late and the relationship there with dad is already too far gone and will be messed up for a very long time.

I feel at this point I have a duty to protect my kids from all of the anger and negativity. I want us to spend some time apart from one another. I am thinking at least 6 weeks.

Am I approaching this in a stupid way or a smart way? I've never done this before so am feeling a little lost on how exactly to get my ducks in order.

I am a SAHM. Please be gentle. I'm mad but mostly just so f*****g sad 😞[/quote]

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