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[quote=Anonymous]Let me start off by saying that we FULLY intend to do some sort of open adoption. But I'm having some fears about it and thought you might have some advice or could recommend resources to read about it.

I know it's much much better for the child if the adoption is open, which is a big part of why we are committed to some level of openness. And I feel for the birth mother and can imagine how wrenching the adoption process could be.  But as DH and I get started on our domestic adoption, I am troubled with fears of my adopted child being influenced in an unhealthy way or even kidnapped.  We are comfortable with letters, pictures, emails and meeting once a year.  But I wouldn't feel comfortable with my child going off unattended with the birth mother until we knew her well/trusted her.

Is this unreasonable? We are thinking about a semi open adoption, with the hopes that down the line we could expand that as much as possible.  But going into this, not knowing the birth parents, we just want to have the legal control in our hands to protect our future child.

Your thoughts?[/quote]

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