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[quote=Anonymous]I recently discovered my husband was developing an alarmingly close friendship with a female co-worker.  Unbeknownst to me, he has been not only seeing her during work, but texting her at all hours of the day.  They average 60-80 texts per day between them, and at times have texted back and forth up to 250 times per day.  They text when we're on vacation together, when we're doing family activities, etc.  He always texts her first thing in the morning and all during their morning commute, all the way home after work, throughout the evening and right before he goes to bed at night.  When I approached him about it, he said they were only friends and that there is nothing sexual going on.  I believe him, but I still protest to the amount of contact they have.  I believe husbands and wives need to give their best time and attention to each other, and that there should be strict parameters between friends of the opposite sex when marriage is involved.  I do not disapprove of him having female friends, but I do disapprove with him having a female friend whom he feels the need to contact every single day.  That seems to indicate a closer attachment than just friendship, even if they aren't sleeping together.  He refuses to cease the out-of-work contact and argues that he has a right to define the boundaries of their friendship.  I feel he's in denial about how close he feels to her.  He may not be sexually attracted to her (yet), but it certainly presents an opportunity for attraction, and with or without sexual contact I feel the emotional involvement with her is inappropriate.  I believe most people feel the same way I do, but he doesn't.  The fact is, I don't know a single woman who would be okay with it.  I tried to just let it go, but I'm an emotional wreck because of it and now suffering from depression.  I've expressed this to him, but he feels he has the right to continue the friendship.  We're now headed for counseling and possibly divorce.   Did I make more out of this than necessary?  Am I wrong.......are there really women out there who would be okay with this?  [/quote]

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