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[quote=Anonymous]So the kid and the dad both have ADHD?

Look, speaking as someone who has ADHD and also has ADHD kids. It's genuinely difficult to have had ADHD long before anyone knew what it really even was (you were just "bad" or "lazy"), to have learned all these lessons the hard way, and THEN to watch as your kid is struggling with the same. It's really hard. Speaking personally, I just want to have learned the lessons for my kids -- and it's frustrating and anxiety-producing that it doesn't work this way.

All that said, your husband's experience and lessons-learned will be of great benefit when your kid is ready. That is, thee things COULD be of benefit, as long as the relationship remains intact. So y advice to your DH? Focus on the relationship, not the fixing. In every moment where DH starts to get triggered/agitated/frustrated, he should pause and ask himself, "if the only thing that really mattered here was the long-term relationship, what would my move be?" Just asking the question can shift things, and open up the kind of dynamic where a kid is able and willing to hear what a parent has to say. [/quote]

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