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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I have agreed to host Thanksgiving and/or Christmas and/or Easter for his family for the last few years due to a series of circumstances such as ILs health issues and BIL/SIL building a house, which is now finished.

We all live in a 2-hour radius, with BIL/SIL in the middle. Everyone drives and is now in good health.

We just finished up a beach house vacation and BIL says, “See you at Thanksgiving,” and I’m genuinely like, oh who is hosting. And he laughs and goes, “you are.”

So now, not joking, DH is like, “no, we’re not, at least not without discussion.” It turned into a berry awkward moment as all adults were standing there.

And then MIL goes, “OP, DH, I think everyone assumed you were hosting, like always.” There is no “always,” people used to rotate until circumstances dictated us hosting repeatedly.

So trying to diffuse, I said, “Well, we can discuss it later.” But it ended on a weird note. DH and I discussed in the car and there is no way we are hosting yet again when everyone is now healthy and has a big house. How to move forward?[/quote]

The good news here is that you and your husband are already on the same page.

He just needs to communicate to his family what you have written above. As a way to soften the blow you can offer to go back in rotation next year if you think that will help.[/quote]

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