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[quote=Anonymous]I imagine the new school anxiety is getting mixed up with the try out anxiety and producing a perfect storm.

Being unable to do the try out doesn’t mean she can’t try out later. She could try out as a 10th grader when she is more comfortable. Meanwhile she needs a plan for how she’ll keep playing this year. Can she continue with a club team?

Talking through this may take the pressure off enough that she can think “I’ll try out because it is good for me and I might make it. But it’s okay if I get cut! I have a backup plan.” It may feel very all or nothing right now. As an athlete and the mom of a college athlete I can tell you that coaches really admire a younger kid who shows up and tries, even if they aren’t yet ready. They’ll admire the effort, not look down on the lack of skill/familiarity with drills.

You and your husband are both right, I think. The motivation must come from her - she needs to have the drive to play. But part of the process of getting her to participate in tryouts will be talking. Identifiying catastrophic thinking, planning for what she’ll do if things don’t go as planned, building her confidence that she can handle feeling anxious. She doesn’t need to be cajoled or talked into it though. [/quote]

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