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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would just have an honest conversation with her.  Don't ask her to say anything b/c, as you say, she is management.  [b]But I think you should just say, "I don't want you to think poorly of me, I'm worried that I'm disappointing you, here's where I'm at[/b]..."[/quote]

OP here -- I think this is where I need to go but being a completely stoic/unemotional person for the last 5 yrs, I don't want her to be scared off by my sudden neediness; as is, I can tell she is a bit uncomfortable -- I get the sense that she'll talk as much as I want to but does not want to push me in any way as she knows I am upset by this. She does know that I am looking and we have had an initial conversation about the types of things I should be looking at. What I need to know -- and cannot ask -- is my timing. As it was last year, the message was "you won't be promoted but we're not showing you the door for a long time." I started looking anyway mostly bc I was pi$$ed at them after the 24-7 work I've put in for 4-5 yrs and she knew/agreed with that approach -- it was the same approach that I know she took when she wasn't promoted once, though the difference is she stuck it out and they changed their mind for her before she found another job. I'm in a more vulnerable spot because the work has slowed down A LOT and they already know they don't want me. I want to ask -- "do I need to take the first awful thing I can find" but don't want to put her in that spot -- she has never been there and really can't relate. As great as she is, some part of her has to be thinking "what is wrong with her - I made the promotion and would have found a job in under one yr if I didn't, why is she still here" . . . hence the embarassment. Obviously don't know if I'm over-thinking it or what.[/quote]

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