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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My sister was the black sheep for her entire life until she had the first grandchild. Then she could do no wrong. So yes, things can change. But if they don't -- just ignore them, OP! Just laugh. It's ridiculous. Don't let them get to you. You're a success and you know it.

My mother harasses me about a particular habit I have. When I was younger that kind of thing would really hurt me and I would feel she was trying to tear me down. Now I really don't give a crap what she thinks or says about it. I'm too old for that. So are you, OP.[/quote]

NP- Do you have a normal relationship with your mom or do you minimize contact? If you’re close, why do you accept being harassed?[/quote]

We have a very close relationship despite her being a raging ***** to me when I was young. I was distant when she was able to hurt me, for self-preservation, but I'm not vulnerable to her anymore, so that probably weakens her desire to do it, too. Not as much fun when the other person is laughing it off.  But I would never be friends with someone who criticized me like that --what's the point? Even with family, if they're more bad than good, then what's the point? It's not family if they're attacking you and diminishing you. I guess the reality is that parents are just people at the end of the day, and if they're not caring for you then they are only your parents on paper. That was the hard pill I had to swallow when I distanced myself from her. Still, there is some tie there that I will never have with anyone else, and that is valuable to both of us. I think she really can't help herself, either, so I can give her some grace now.[/quote]

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