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[quote=Anonymous]Thank you all. You nailed the situation to what is exactly happening (down to “not willing to move and risking new complications due to being uncooperative with physical therapists” - at least this is how it was described to me). I am currently visiting and doing everything in my power to help either way - listening and being supportive.

When my parent got sick, it was fast and hit us by a surprise. Surgery had a tiny chance of survival. I could be wrong, but looking back, I think my parent went in with a hope not to survive and has been in shock with the post-surgery pain and effort that will be necessary to recover.

Things are even more complicated by the laws that have to be followed in this country - no DNR orders and, if a patient shows up at the hospital, doctors are obligated to perform all the necessary life-saving measures. There is an option to refuse the treatment and go home, but no assistance is provided with the pain management unless it is deemed to be end-of-the-life situation, if that makes sense.

I agree with one of the previous posters that open criticism by doctors and nurses is only making things worse (my parent is not more motivated because hospital staff is openly upset with their lack of cooperation).

Even though it makes perfect sense, no one has mentioned a possibility of depression and anxiety and how to deal with it. I will try to ask gently. 
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