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[quote=Anonymous]Respect begets respect. Many parents don't treat their children as autonomous individuals, nor do they display the gratitude that they made the decision to be a parent and are honored to perform the role. No child is responsible for thanking their parents to feed, clothe, or house them. That's what parents signed up to provide. And no child is responsible for performing certain duties dictated by parents for the rest of their lives. When one has children, you are giving birth to individuals with their own genetic dispositions, perceptions, and experiences. I'm not sure why anyone would think kids are carbon copies of anyone. Some people are more selfish - for many reasons. Some people are more emotionally connected to those around them - for many reasons. You'll drive yourself crazy if you try to figure out why all the time.

Be loving, do your legitimate best, model the family life you desire, be a safe space for your kids, respect them as their own people with their own values and ideas. That's all you can do. Mostly, drop the "grateful" nonsense. Having a caring relationship with all of your children is a wonderful goal to have. Demanding that they show you some undefined level of gratefulness is selfish. It's nebulous and really means nothing. If your adult kids want to be around you and demonstrate care through sharing time and life experiences - then you've made it! [/quote]

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