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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Totally agree with you on the double standard.  I am also happy to continue dating other people until we agree explicitly to exclusivity.  I’m no expert but I think the trick is to be a little more coy.  Like with the guy who said he wasnt ready for exclusivity and then asked if you were seeing other people, I would just say ‘we agreed we are not exclusive, so it’s not really your business where I was last night.  Should we revisit that conversation?  because I would like to be exclusive with you.’.

more generally, if I’m not exclusive with someone, I treat them like a friend I see when it works.  I dont tell them everything about my day/week, and I treat them like they have a right to that information.  I keep them slightly at a distance, I guess - if they want to get closer, they need to commit to exclusivity. [/quote]

Are you sexually non exclusive or just go out with other men ? Because to me, it’s hard to be sexually very attracted if I think of a man as if he’s just a friend [/quote]

I’m sexually non-exclusive.  It’s rare that I’m actually sleeping with 2 men, but I’m OK with sleeping with someone I like and am attracted to but not exclusive with.  And then I keep dating and maybe I’ll find someone better.  But more importantly for the OP, I dont treat #1 like a boyfriend.  I dont respond to texts 24/7 or let him know where i am all the time - like I might just say ‘out with a friend.’. If he acts like he deserves more info, I would point out that we are not exclusive.  I haven’t ever had to really do that, though - I think keeping them a little at arms length sends a clear signal - if they want to lock me down, they have to agree to same.[/quote]

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