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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m Gen X and I thought the mantra of my people was, “Whatever.” Nothing bothers me and I let everything roll off my back and easily move on.

Having said that, I seem to be surrounded by a lot of snowflakes who skew negative, look for drama, and simply aren’t resilient. I find these people to be exhausting. Some of these people are Gen X. I guess they didn’t get the message in the 90s. The worst offenders have a bizarre arrogance fueled by an insecurity that compels them to tear others down. Again: they apparently missed the Gen X orientation. [/quote]

I am also Gen X, and I wish people like you would start to understand how you are part of the problem.

Look, some people are oversensitive, and yes there is this cultural behavior now where some people are just looking for reasons to be offended. That is annoying. But what you are describing is anti-social, disrespectful behavior. "Whatever" and "get over it" is not a productive philosophy in life. It is likely to create conflict, not turn the page on it. It also entirely driven by ego. You think it's "uncool" to have feelings or care about anything, and that you are superior for just not giving a sh!t.

Have some manners. Care about how your actions impact others and make a good faith effort not to be hurtful. If someone takes offense and you really didn't mean to hurt them, just say you are sorry and you didn't realize. Saying your sorry acknowledges that their experience matters and it's not just about you and your intent. Develop communication skills that enable you to talk about feelings. You don't have to get into all this annoying therapy speak that floats around, you don't have to say crap like "hold space" or whatever. Just have some humility and acknowledge other people exist and matter.

I do get driven up the wall with "cancel culture" and this need to create a million new rules for social interaction all the time, but I find the "whatever" ethics of some gen x'ers as bad or worse. It's just rude. There is a middle ground, that's an extreme position that doesn't really help anything.[/quote]

I don’t think you really understand the Whatever generation.

It’s not about being rude or arrogant. Quite the opposite.

We were the generation that embraced “Live and let live.” We embraced diversity. We were cool with the lgbt community.

We weren’t fancy or needy.

We worked hard and played hard.

We piled into tiny apartments or group houses. We didn’t expect handouts or a free ride.

When we were stressed, we partied or blasted music in our cars or spent hours talking with friends at coffee houses or bars. Nobody could afford therapy, but we really didn’t need it. We had friends. We talked. We socialized.

And we didn’t complain at work. We weren’t strivers either. We knew the deal: work hard if you want to pay the bills so you can play hard.

I find my Gen X friends and colleagues to be the most grounded people with the biggest hearts and most compassion. We didn’t have cell phones or social media…we had friends. I think we had a better grasp on group dynamics: it wasn’t about us as individuals; it was always about our group (at work, friends, etc.).

How old are you pp? Maybe you aren’t from the same Gen X as the rest of us. [/quote]

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