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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can’t force anyone else to manage their health differently. You can force people to eat healthier, exercise more, manage their stress, or get better sleep. You can’t force someone to take medication or use medical equipment.

You have already clearly made your views known. The doctor has reinforced it. Now he gets to make his own decisions. He is an adult. You don’t have to like it but it’s his choice.[/quote]

[b]But if his choice affects the rest of the family, shouldn’t that be up for discussion?[/b] OP here and when DH doesn’t use his cpap, he is a drowsy grumpy mess the next day. He denies it and says he can’t control his mood. But if it’s a weekend he’ll disappear to go nap or if it’s the evening he’ll say he’s too tired to do dishes or handle kid stuff and then nap on the couch.

If I did something like stay up all night watching movies or going dancing with my friends whenever I felt like it and was too tired to parent the next day, I feel like that would be up for discussion because it would be unfair to DH and dumping responsibility on him. [/quote]

You have discussed it. Ultimately we all get to make our decisions about health, and continuing to make your case is not going to convince him, no matter how righteous you feel. I've been there with my wife; eventually, she decided to start using the CPAP but my bothering her wouldn't have made it happen sooner. She had to decide it was worth it to her.

And a CPAP isn't a magic bullet. My wife still sleeps until 10am on weekends and naps all the time, and I get more responsibility. That's just part of being a parent. Fairness doesn't come into it.[/quote]

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