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[quote=Anonymous]Yes but some addicts don't. My brother has been in and out of rehab for 30 years. I don't know why it never quite works. He wants to change, but when life gets hard (and it always does) he relapses. And not little relapses. Some addicts are just like this. I don't know why as I am not an addict. I would consider dating someone who had been sober for a really long time (like 10+ years and really stayed on top of it, in therapy, taking care of themselves, lots of tools in their toolkit to deal with adversity) after dating for a long time and building trust. But it would take a lot. One thing I know from having a loved one with addiction is that addicts lie, including to themselves. So it would take a LOT to get over that hurdle. I don't mean to discourage anyone in recovery. I see you and I believe you. Good work. I just know how hard it is and not everyone does it.[/quote]
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