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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you! I will look into The Dorm and see where that leads us. he is taking 1-2 classes a semester at the Community College, and she is fine with online classes, but not in-person anything. She will go there and just not get in the classroom or communicate with the teacher. We have tried to work with an executive coach, as well as groups, but it's difficult when the skill she needs to interact with them in a meaningful way is the very skill she is missing.

We have supported the ADHD and anxiety side but i feel there's more to it, which is why we just need a fresh approach.

And yes on the personal timeline -- she will do great, but needs to figure out the social piece first.[/quote]

Look I’m going to be honest but it probably won’t be as kind as you’d like because I’m tired. If your kid is 2 years out of high school and can’t even attend community college classes in person then you need much bigger supports than EF, a couple groups, and waiting it out. You missed your major window to work on these things and now supports are more expensive and much harder to find. At this point she’s an adult and you can’t force her to do anything & I’m going to assume she’s manipulating this situation a bit as you both know it’s beyond your control.

All this talk about validating and masking and making things tolerable, if this is how things have been approached it’s easy to see why she’s where she’s at. She’s never really had to do anything and it doesn’t sound like you’re helping her right now by allowing her to stay at home, not go to classes, and catering to her. If the potential isn’t there that’s one thing but it sounds like it is and the current lifestyle/home situation is inhibiting progress.

You need a total change of environment. You have to get this child out of the house away from you, and in a place where they’re literally forced to communicate for their own survival, best case scenario with supports. What you have going now is going to result in a 45 year old failure to launch situation. I assume you love her and care and probably have financial supports otherwise you wouldn’t be asking. Try something like Cornerstones in Maine. [/quote]

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