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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Usually people who think this are either part of the very small minority who was truly dealt an awful school environment that could not be rectified; or are part of a larger group who feels schools should fix everything about their child's special needs. MCPS prioritizes the truly impacted kids above the ones with less disabling issues, and that's really hard for some parents to understand. And some of the most impacted kids who need private placement can't get them because those private schools are full, or can't take them because they're not good fits. MCPS is best at caring for the kids who are in the middle of that spectrum of needs.

I have a 20 year old with speech/motor issues, low processing speed, autism and ADHD, and a 15 year old still in an MCPS high school. We worked with MCPS to give our son all the tools for success. They did what they could, within the confines of their resources and personnel. With very few exceptions, all the people involved did their best for him. Was their best enough? Obviously not. WE did the heavy lifting at home and paid for help, with medical treatments, social skills groups, tutoring, and constant accompaniment, explanations, narrations and reminders by ME. Parents do not get a pass.

And that's how it will always be. It's always harder to care for a child with special needs than it is to raise a child without. I have both, who went through the same school system. I can see how deficits that my neurotypical child can work around ended up being major obstacles for my child with neurodivergence. But it doesn't mean the school didn't try very had to help him. He has teachers and counselors who went above and beyond for him and we are truly grateful.

There is no perfect school system. His first grade class had 31 kids in it. Large classes can only be reduced with building more schools, and each school costs dozens of millions of dollars, that the county and state cannot afford. But his high school counselor arranged for him to take his ACT across four days of testing (one portion per day), due to his 100% extended time. She came on weekends to open the school and arranged proctors for him. His AP US Gov teacher sat with him for hours to help him write flashcards so he claw his way to a 4 on his AP exam. I could go on.

In the end, the buck stops with the parents.
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This is the point. I agree. Regardless of the IEP meetings and the stupid PLOP and whatever pull outs they try to accomplish, all they can really do are accommodations.

That needs to be made clear. You see from many posts from parents that the schools do not make clear that they are unable to remediate a learning disability. The parents waste precious time believing this. This is the problem. No matter what the law says, schools cannot do this task and they should be upfront about it. Parents new to the process should not have to read the tea leaves and infer it. [/quote]

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