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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I dated a guy from ages 16 to 19, he was my first love. I moved across the country from him at 19 which caused our breakup a few weeks later, maybe I wanted that, I don't remember. Every few years he texts me to tell me he is still sexually attracted to me or he still loves me or just says hi. Nothing violent though. I haven't heard from him in 2 years, but I do know that I am the last relationship he's ever had. I do miss him here and there (I'm single).

Yesterday I had a dream about him, so today I randomly googled him only to see he was arrested yesterday with a felony stalking charge. I did some digging and read the court records, he was harassing a woman at work who ended up leaving the job. He continued to contact her through different emails, kind of like what he did to me when I moved. But he took it way further. He showed up to her work and home, legally obtained a gun, and threatened to shoot her before the end of the summer along with threatening to shoot her family or whoever is standing next to her. This poor woman must have gone through hell with his threats.

His twin sister has very bad schizophrenia (institutionalized) so I am thinking he probably does too, along with bipolar and probably other issues. It's just so sad because we had so many fun moments and I still look back and think about him and the kids we were, same with his twin who was a close friend. I kind of wish I never looked him up. I have very detailed dreams. The dream I had last night which caused me to look him up was sexual and felt very realistic. It was like I had just spent time with him even though it's been so long. I just know I'm going to have a nightmare about him tonight.

I plan on going home for a wedding next month, I hope he'll still be locked up. He does have bail options, and it would only be a few grand with a bail bond.  I already struggle with PTSD from other past relationships/childhood. The memories I made with him were somewhat of a happy point in my life. But that's all tainted now.

I'm not trying to make this about me, I feel terrible for the woman who had to deal with his crap. And I feel lucky that I had some type of intuition to move away from him way back then. I'm also able to see how he was controlling and the red flags these days. Does anyone else have a first love who ended up going down a terrible path? 
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You were in contact with him and you were thinking, dreaming and checking on him. Those are also red flags.[/quote]

I haven't been in contact with him in 2 years. The last time he contacted me I blocked him.  This was all prior to knowing that he was actually dangerous. I can't really control my dreams. The dream made me think about him for the first time in maybe a year or so, and since I knew his twin was locked up I wanted to see if he was okay. As far as I knew prior to that he had gotten his master's degree and was doing well in life. This is his first conviction. Obviously I feel creeped out about my dream now. [/quote]

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