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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like your mom is experiencing age related decline and anxiety. I would look into an anxiety med for her. It might help with the criticism.

You have every right to date and remarry and I wish you happiness! And to live far from your parents if you choose. But you need to be realistic that this isn't a good deal for them. It just isn't, and expecting their support is like going to a dry well and expecting water. [/quote]

I have tried for years to convince her to go to therapy or to try anxiety meds.  She told me that therapy is for crazy people and that I should go to therapy, not her.  I understand that this isn't easy and that having their daughter live on the other side of the world is not ideal.  I'm not expecting them to be thrilled for me, but I was also left alone to navigate a new life and grief without their support.  I am visiting as often as I can and I won't bring my new partner around anymore if it makes her uncomfortable, but I am not able to completely uproot my life at this point.  My daughter is my #1 priority.  I am her only parent and she deserves a Mom who is present.  [/quote]

Your mom will just have to deal. And you will have to deal with her being unhappy. Take a deep breath and accept that that's how she is and you can't fix it. Honestly, choosing to move far away comes with this kind of thing, even if you didn't forsee it at the time.[/quote]

It may be impossible to please your mom, even if you’re objectively being a loving and responsible daughter. [/quote]

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