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[quote=Anonymous]Even my very conservative Vietnamese in-laws have given up on the idea that any of their kids will take them in (or move in) and care for them 24/7 in their old age. My MIL did try, but all her Vietnamese DILs laughed in her face, her own sons shuffled out of the discussion shamefacedly, which left me, the sole non-Viet in the family, with more of a case to ignore the request. She's not abandoned either! She spends her time between an apartment in the city and a house with garden in the country, looked after by hired aides who cook, clean and do everything she wants, visited by nurses and physical therapists, and her oldest son and his wife drop in regularly to supervise and keep her company  - they're closest, we're out of the country.

If you feel guilty and want to be prepare your MIL, by all means, have your husband warn her that most adult children don't live with their elderly parents anymore. But if you want to avoid a conflict, not telling her is fine too.

Also, you're allowed to move anywhere in the world.
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