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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi, this is OP...and I have 5 frozens left, so it would take a couple of cycles to use them (assuming all survived the thaw). I know clinics don't freeze 'bad' embryos but I do keep thinking that we have tried the best ones already with no luck, so certainly these won't work. I am ama so the chances of any embryos being sub-par is larger.

Its so tough because while I am so grateful to have the frozen embryos, it makes it so hard to let go, and after everything I really want to let myself let go! I do not necessarily feel an obligation to use them all...if we had gotten pregnant I would have kept them frozen and never implanted them, but when I think that my DC was once an embryo it makes me look at it differently. I'm just so ready for resolution, as most of you on this forum are!

For the PPs who have adopted...I know the struggles of IF treatment, but the struggles of adoption would be new to me. [b]Do you think it was as tough, tougher, or just tough in a different way? My feeling is that once a baby is in our arms, how it got there won't matter so much[/b]![/quote]

I am the poster who above said we adopted.  The process of adoption was tough, but in a different way.  None of it involves you physically.  None of it involves the physical manipulation of your hormones, your health, etc.  Instead, it will be tough b/c you are dealing with bureaucracy, paperwork, you need to be oraganized and stay on top of things.  But if you are like most of us on here who are a relatively successful person, you have already done multiple "applications" of sort in your own life (college, post-college, jobs, etc.) so if you apply yourself, you can get thru it, just like you got thru (and probably succeeded at) all of these previous types of "applications."  In that way, it felt like a more "familiar" type of effort to me -- and it also felt a BIT more controllable -- whereas with the IF treatments, there seeemed to be no correlation (for me at least) b/c effort put in, and results/output.  This drove me batty.  I am used to putting in effort, and seeing results.  :)  In this way, adoption is easier, b/c you KNOW yoiu will be getting a "result" in the end.[/quote]

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