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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm unclear on what your visit plans originally were. But I think you have every right to refuse to visit the rehab and to participate in that process. You have to focus on yourself and your kids. [/quote]

Our original visit plans were a casual visit -- we were going to rent an AirBnB near my parents and planning a few big family meals at their house so kids could play and adults could visit, play games, etc. They all live in an outdoorsy place so my family would probably try to do some hiking or other outdoor activities, though most of my family is not particularly outdoorsy so probably wouldn't join us. The main goal of the trip, though, was just seeing and visiting with family.

However, due to what is currently going on, I suspect there will not be any casual, relaxed family dinners, but tense conversations about how to handle my brother's relapse and how my other siblings and my parents are feeling about it. My kids might still get to play with cousins but also my experience is that even this might be curtailed, as my other siblings may not bring kids to family gatherings with this stuff going on.

I don't think anyone will expect me to go to the rehab facility or participate in therapy or anything. I just don't think it's going to be a fun visit and will instead be stressful and difficult but not necessarily helpful for anyone. Our last visit was like that as well -- planned as a vacation but then two of my siblings were feuding and not speaking, one sibling was not speaking to our parents, and one sibling was in the midst of splitting up with his wife. It wound up being a very stressful trip for all involved. I don't want a repeat of it. The trip winds up being expensive for us -- plane tickets, car rental, house rental in a place with really expensive accommodations in the summer. Plus the vacation time. I don't want to spend it having tense conversation with my family.[/quote]

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